August is Worldwide Parenting with PTSD Month
I hope this month I have demonstrated I’m incapable of parenting without God. If I parent differently, i.e., in a healthy, well-balanced, loving and merciful way, I have no choice but to consult my Father Who also has a Son and billions of children around the world including me.
“You’ll never be a perfect parent but you can be a praying parent. Prayer is your highest privilege as a parent. There is nothing you can do that will have a higher return on investment. … Prayer turns ordinary parents into prophets who shape the destinies of their children, grandchildren and every generation that follows. … Our prayers never die.”—pg. 11.
My primary business is parenthood. Prayers of blessing, prophetic declarations and releasing heaven over my children were missing. Since upping my prayer game, my kids have become the most profitable venture of my life.
Our family has had more challenges than most so I exercised prayer in the form of Honey-do lists for God. However, I had understand praying over my children was the most important legacy I could leave.
Batterson reminded me God made tons of promises for ourselves, our children and our nation. It was my responsibility to find them and start praying over them. I learned prayer over my kids includes three key components: 1) Blessing; 2) Declaring; and 3) Releasing.
BLESSING: Favor as a shield
Prayer is presenting my children to God from one parent to Another. He is a loving God who wants only what’s best. After all, He made them and knows the plans He has for them. They are plans to prosper them. Plans for a hope and a future. He loves them more than I do.
As I pray aloud, He gives me wisdom, grace and opens my eyes. He equips me with light so I can walk through tough times with them. My role is to consistently point them back to God so they understand I am comfort, not their source for provision, justice, etc. God is. They need to know that in tough times, God intends to make them stronger and deepen their faith.
God provides favor and mercy as a shield, so they learn lessons tailored just for them. With my prayer covering, those life lessons push them closer to God and empower them for future testing and trials. It’s the single most important gift I can give.
DECLARING: Reminding them of their identity
As I was coming to realize who I really was, I also began to realize my mission as a parent: To establish their identity before the world did. God had been speaking to me about them for years but I wasn’t really listening. He told me their identity so I started there.
Years ago, my daughter blessed me on mother’s day with a portion of Proverbs 31, a passage identifying key qualities of a Godly woman. God wanted me to declare this over her so I did.
My daughter who lives 90 minutes from me started serving in the nursery at her church, a task she absolutely loved. She grew into her role as steward and teacher. She began to experience favor with staff. They noticed how well she was doing despite her disabilities and rewarded her with a more regular service schedule.
Then a few months ago, they asked her to stand before the church at the end of church service and pray with and over people. Proud? Well, yeah!!! God honored my prayer over my daughter. She has grown in wisdom, revelation, grace and service excellence. I couldn’t be more pleased that He has captured my daughter’s heart and she is truly a servant He delights in.
My son, on the other hand, has had people over the last six years notice there is a powerful pastoral call on His life. I’ve sensed something for years but it wasn’t until we were at Bethel Church Redding he was given greater clarity. What I was around him I heard, “oak of righteousness.” I knew it was in the Bible somewhere so I Googled it.
There’s only one passage: Isaiah 61. I clearly heard Him say this is my son’s promise, destiny. He instructed me to declare this over him every night so I did. I also found a few other passages to declare because he was struggling in school and scouting. I knew my son needed to hear me bless him and intercede on his behalf because he needed to hear my heart for him.
I declare aloud Isaiah 61:1-4, Jeremiah 29:11, Luke 2:52 and expressing gratitude for how He was molding my son according to Joshua 1:7a. It’s happening. He truly is growing in wisdom, favor and stature with God and man. He now believes this is who God made him to be. If I somehow forget or feel too tired to pray aloud, my son always reminds and insists I bless and declare over him. He loves it. He is reminded every night who and Whose He is. He feels loved all the more because Mom is presenting him before the One who visits him in his dreams.
RELEASING: Bringing heaven to earth
Releasing the full force of heaven over my children is not optional.
My children have a few health challenges so as I ask for complete healing over my children in key areas. I unleash healing, restoration and deep peace over them. I release peace that surpasses all understanding because I believe it is the turmoil, confusion and pain that releases the opposite and spawns disease.
I also break off family or generational curses like health conditions passed down through generations such as diabetes or heart disease. I break them off at the source by asking God to carve it out from the point of inception centuries ago. I thank Him in advance for making this and subsequent generations whole. I want them all to know Jesus in the most intimate way. Disease and illness will not interfere with God’s mission for them on earth.
I also release legions of angels to protect my children now and over generations. If “prayers never die,” then at least once I want to release wave upon wave of Godly blessings so my future ancestors will bless and be blessed by the God of all creation now and forever more.
Points to ponder this month
“Parenting is the hardest thing you’ll ever do and the more you love your kids, the harder it is,” Batterson said. Truer words were never spoken. The more I love my kids, the more I want to spoil them rotten. However, I also have learned to balance blessings with limits.
These limits are on a case-by-case basis. if I’m not connected with Someone Who can see the entire blueprint life, then I am rendered helpless, a dingy in the middle of a lake without a rudder or sail.
I realize there are those who have ritual and spiritual abuse backgrounds like me. Don’t let that dictate your relationship with God who hasn’t abused you. They twisted it. God didn’t. He’s been there all along. He’s standing with you waiting to bless, encourage and instruct. Parenting isn’t hell. It’s heaven on earth. What makes it heavenly is when we partner with God to make it right.
We can do all things with God who loves us unconditionally. He’ll never ask you to hurt yourself or others. He only wants to love you and love through you. Explore Him. Test Him. Taste and see that He is good, He is for you, He loves you with such a passion you can’t imagine but can experience when you surrender absolutely into His loving arms. He’ll parent you first so you can parent your sprouts the way He parents you.
Will you let Him? I’m praying you do.
Blessings always until then.
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Beatings/Spankings are abuse: plain and simple
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The drought before the drought
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Awakenings podcast: Parenting with PTSD